My Odysseus

My Odysseus

For the Love of Cows

Bearded herdsman with a staff among cattle in a coastal olive grove

“Sing to me of the man, Muse, the man of twists and turns”. So opens Homer’s Odyssey.  Cowboy Clay and I recently went to see the Christopher Nolan movie of the same name.  I had just finished listening to the Robert Fagles translation of the poem narrated with great gusto by Sir Ian McKellen. At the very end of the poem, I was thunderstruck by a scene.  It is a scene that spoke to me as a cattle rancher’s wife.

The scene I’m talking about is at the end of the tale It is when Odysseus, upon his return to his kingdom of Ithaka, slays the one hundred and four suitors who had been pillaging his lands and harassing his wife for twenty years.  He, with his son Telemachus, then goes to see his father, Laertes, who is living in the country taking care of the cattle and crops. He proves to his father that he indeed is Odysseus by speaking with fond memory of those crops which include “thirteen pear trees, forty fig trees, ten apple trees…fifty rows of vines” and a herd of very fine cows.

In celebration of the return to his land and its people (or oikos which is Greek for household), they butcher a beef and share the feast with their loyal servants, the swineherd and the shepherd and their children.  Today, it would be like John Dutton of the “Yellowstone” series celebrating with his ranch hands at the Dutton Ranch. But this scene is not in the Nolan movie.

Homer emphasizes the Greek notion of “nostos”.  Nostos means “the return” from war and a journey filled with strife.  Nostalgia comes from this word.  It is also a person’s personal journey to define his place in the world.  Through the trials and tribulations of life, a person defines what is important to them. But this theme is not the main one in Nolan’s adaptation.  In one scene, Damon’s Odysseus says that he is not sure he even wants to go home.

There are two examples in Homer’s Odyssey that emphasize “nostos” that are also not in the film. Odysseus is offered pretty good deals not to return home to Ithaca.  Calypso offers him immortality if he would stay with her forever on her lush island.  After he leaves her and is washed on to the shores of Skyeria, the king of the Phaiekians, Alkinoos, offers him the hand of his young daughter, Nauskiaa,  and a large, beautiful and peaceful kingdom to rule over.  But Odysseus rejects the young and beautiful gals to return to his aging wife and his own herd of cows.  He rejects Alkinoos’ vast herds and land ‘o plenty for that of his less lush but much cherished pile of rocks called home.

Cows play another part in Odysseus’ journey home.  He is told by the prophet Teiresias when he goes to Hades that if he goes to the Sun god Helios’s island, he and his men cannot kill the cows there because Helios loves his cows.  Of course, his men disobey and eat a cow.  But Odysseus, honorably, minds the words of the prophet and does not eat the meat of the cow.  He also, as a cattleman, knows that nobody should come between a man and his cows.

Our ranch was not the Dutton ranch.  Our ranch house was smaller than the Dutton Ranch’s bunk house.  Cowboy Clay had a herd of beautiful white-faced brown Hereford cows, one of the oldest Hereford herds in the state. Clay’s place in the world is defined by his neighbors who helped round up his cows, his good wife and family, and his grasslands for his cows.

Odysseus was indeed a man of “twists and turns”.  Odysseus was also described as smart and wily but could also be tempted by drinking too much wine.  Besides loyalty to his household, he was also described as a man of great cunning (metis). And boy howdy can Cowboy Clay fix almost anything with the right tools and a whole bunch of baling twine. 

Like Ithaca, Montana is not a pretty place nor is it charming like the New England towns I’ve lived in.  It’s vast and rocky and literally stunning.   “High, Wide and Handsome” is what John Kinsey Howard calls it in the book by the same name.  Arizona, where Clay and I have moved, also has a plainness with it sandy landscape and adobe homes. But with bursts of colorful flowers coming out of scraggly cactus, it is quite beautiful and much softer than Montana. The mountains are rounded and not the craggy miles high peaks of Big Sky country.  It is where, like in Homer’s tale “Dawn touches the sky with her fingertips of rose” and the sunsets are mesmerizing.  It is like the Mediterranean in a way, as it has a healing aspect to it.

Clay is retired now.  Tequila has replaced bourbon and branch. Our irrigation system waters cactus not alfalfa.  But Clay knows what his place in the world was.  It was raising cattle to feed people and provide for his household. I once asked him with a bit of pouty face why he always said that “the cows come first”. He’d smile with that sly grin of his (another feature he shared with Odysseus) and say, “Happy cows…happy wife.”

This is where the two tales diverge a bit.  King Odysseus is finally home with his cows and has memories of his wild adventures fighting Cyclops and Sirens and such.  Clay never left home until now.  And he’s not even a cattle baron, let alone a king. There is a pretty big similarity though.  When asked what Clay misses about Montana, he always says, a bit wistfully,

“I miss my cows.”

I can imagine that might have also kept Odysseus from yielding to the seductresses, Circe and Kalypso.   It wasn’t just Penelope. Those herds of females were waiting for him too.

Cowgirl Cassandra

Note: First Odyssey quote come from the Robert Fagles translation and the “the fingertips of rose” quote is from the Daniel Mendelsohn translation.

Stop Preaching and Start Talking: “The Lost Art of Argument”

Star Wars Bar

Most USAians think they are super smart.   It’s kind of like being sophomores in the history of the world.  We think we know everything.  We bragged about what our rambunctiousness produced. But now we stopped making stuff and we think that being a weasel is our way out of everything.  The new term for this weaselness is disinformation. And now we have retreated into bubbles babbling weasel phrases amongst ourselves in chat rooms.

Rudyard Lynch has a podcast called History 102. Rudyard is wise beyond his 24 years and approaches history from an anthropological angle.  I was listening to the latest topic that he discusses with his co-host Austin Padgett.  “Explaining the Age of Neo-Liberalism”.  They explore the breakdown of society and bemoan the reality that nobody talks to each other anymore.  Rudyard makes the observation “If you can’t talk about it, you can’t think about it.” These guys are addressing our current predicament of taking the same “facts” and coming up with two or more competing film stories.

One big reason for these muddled narratives is that we don’t engage in dialogue except amongst people who we agree with rather than at “a town meeting” or cafe or watering hole where one must look neighbors in the face and try to make a point and to try to see their point.  The French, on the other hand, have their cafe society. They do their duty as citizens by talking “politics”. (“Politics” is a discussion, not a shouting match, of the way we wish to live our lives and what we enjoy and what gives our lives meaning).  The French leave work and go out to a cafe and argue about life and art. They engage in conversation and often use dialectics in search of clues to the mysteries of life. Or at least that’s the way it used to be.  When I was in grad school, after play rehearsal we would go to a bar, order pitchers of beer and discuss how we would save the world through art.  When I did Off-Off Broadway theater in New York City, we would adjourn to Peter McManus’ Irish pub around the corner from the theater and argue about the choices our characters should make.  We loved to look at all the angles and the contradictions.

But somewhere along the line those personal confrontations became fewer and fewer and didn’t seem to translate into our public lives as citizens.  Historian Christopher Lasch in his book “Revolt of the Elites and the Betrayal of Democracy” has a chapter called “The Lost Art of Argument”.  In it he writes that “what Democracy requires is vigorous public debate, not information.  Yes, we do need information but information that is “generated only by debate.”  So, he takes the “information revolution” and turns it on its head.  Information in and of itself is worthless without being debated.  “Information, usually seen as the pre-condition of debate is better understood as a by-product.”

And how do we gather these clues?  By asking questions.  We take our ideas and subject them to somebody else’s arguments.  If we passionately engage with the eagerness to learn, we may instead of changing somebody else’s mind find that we have changed our mind.  So, we must listen carefully and be willing to challenge our own beliefs and to say “Maybe what I believe may be wrong.”  How exciting and far less dull than passively taking in information from some newspaper or from so pundit.

Lasch gives a shout out to the social historian Ray Oldenburg’s “The Great Good Place” and with Oldenburg mourns the passing of the local watering hole, the cafe, the hair salon, the soda fountain steps and other places between work and home where conversations used to flourish.  These were places like the soda fountain steps where kids listened to their fathers debate a local policy with vigor and good-hearted disagreement.  Those places where professions mingled as equals are hard to find in the suburbs, but they still exist in small towns and big cities.  I was lucky to spend many years in a small town where wisdom came from caring for cows and not from a book. Democracy dies if we hide in cul-de sacs furtively taking anxiety meds as we peer out of the drawn blinds or retreat to cocktail parties or book clubs where everybody is of the same class and tows the party line “Four legs good.  Two legs bad”.  So, I suggest this year that you get out and find a Cheers bar in your neighborhood or even better, a Star Wars bar and strike up a conversation with somebody who may see things differently than you do.  If you don’t have one of those, then go to the nearest town that has one and adopt it as your own.  And for heaven’s sake don’t get your information from a newspaper.  You can get your questions there though.

Weaseltown -An Homage to Scott Adams (Written in 2013 and revised 2026)

Weaseltown

“To err is human. To cover it up is weasel.” (Scott Adams).

And so, the author and cartoonist, Scott Adams lays out his explanation of how things are in our workaday world.  In his book “Dilbert and the Way of the Weasel: A Guide to Outwitting Your Boss, Your Coworkers, and the Other Pants-Wearing Ferrets in Your life” written way back in 2002, Adams explores “The Weasel Zone”.  This is the “gigantic grey area between good moral behavior and outright felonious activities. And “it’s where most of life happens.”

He adds, “Sometimes also known as Weaselville, Weaseltown, the Way of the Weasel, Weaselopolis, Weaselburg, and Redmond.” [reference to where Microsoft is headquartered].

“In the Weasel Zone everything is misleading, but not exactly a lie. There’s a subtle difference.  When you lie, you hope to fool someone.  But when you’re being a weasel, everyone is aware that you’re a manipulative, scheming, misleading sociopath.”

When the weasel knows that you know he’s weaseling, Adams feels it is a form of honesty–“a weasel form”.  Examples that he gives are that “No one believes the engineer that says he will explain things briefly. No one believes a contractor that says the job will be done in a week… No one believes a politician who says that large contributions don’t influence his decisions.”

Political writers have called this behavior in Washington, Japanese Kabuki theater signifying a lot of bluff and bluster but it’s all staged. Around 2008, the word kayfabe popped up which is a term for the unspoken art of fakery in pro-wrestling.

A therapist friend recommended a book called “Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me) by Tavris and Aronson.  I read a couple chapters and then skimmed through the rest. The premise in “Mistakes” is that people use a lot of self-justification to defend bad decisions or hurtful behavior.  Another phrase for this is “cognitive dissonance”. 

But Scott Adams’ book is much more fun than the Tavris and Aronson book. He doesn’t pussy foot around.   Plus, it’s got cartoons

I don’t think those guys are Jungians. The physician, Carl Jung, saw that people were different as did many physicians like Hippocrates. It was a simple as that. People different from me aren’t bad, they are just different.  People are born with a certain kind of hardware, he reasoned.   They are maybe a MacOS or Microsoft Windows or some kind of Linux.  We are born with preferences in the way we take in information, how we make decisions based on that information and where we get our energy from i.e the outside world of people and places or by being alone with oneself.  As we grow up our family, friends and work act like software.  They enhance or inhibit our growth as a unique human.  Jung recommended working on our own strengths, our preferences until well into our twenties.  Then we should try to get in other people’s shoes and try to understand them from their point of view.  He called that individuation.  I call it growing up.

For the record, Adams is a critic of the Jungian psychological test known as the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator.  “The idea is that people can be categorized by personality type and you can work with them better if you take that into account.  Okay, I buy that. My quibble with the theory is that if you aren’t bright enough to know that people have different personalities, you’re asking a lot of the Myers-Briggs training to get you over the hump. My second quibble is that their personality categories don’t include weasel, moron, or flaming butt-hole.  I don’t know about you, but I rarely have problems with any other type of personality.”

This is exactly what my rancher husband says every time I talk about someone that displays no empathy.  I try to explain it by personality type or Asperger’s.  Rancher will say, “He’s just a”butt-hole”.  But rancher theory breaks down when his own friend displays butt-holeness.  “Oh, he means well,” or “he’s a good guy”.  See that’s what we hear every day on the news about politicians.  “He has good intentions, I’m sure”.  Really?  Really?  Well that gets into defending your tribe or being a particular male way of looking at friendship.  And that’s another essay.

So, this is where I’m supposed to come up with some uplifting idea or advice.  I learned this from Scott Adams too.  Adams advice is to embrace the inevitable and go weasel. (He may be winking a bit with this advice.) But I’m one of those who is still part of the resistance.  So here goes my uplifting advice: living in Weaseltown works for most people.  Again, to err is human, but to cover up the mistake is weasel.  They go with the flow. They talk themselves into a peaceful conformity. But for we few, we happy few who feel exhilarated by using curiosity and self-examination to discover the man behind the curtain, it’s time to put on our flippers and goggles because we need to get into that river once again and start swimming upstream as difficult as that may be. But we could also channel the Scott Adams of his book “Win Bigly: Persuasion in a World Where Facts Don’t Matter”” and try to persuade the others that the non weasel way might be the best way to get you where you’re going.

More of The Tao of Cow

Montana Storm

Cowboy Clay made this observation recently: “Montanans don’t get outraged. They get bothered.”

This was in response to my query about how I should feel about the latest documentary on the frontier called Kevin Costner’s ‘The West'”. The chapter on the Lewis and Clark expedition didn’t look like around here which is in the middle of Montana along the Yellowstone River. From the ranch, I can almost see where the expedition overnighted. They wrote that they had to use two trees to make one canoe, the trees being pretty scrawny and there weren’t that many of them. But in this retelling, the expedition seemed to be traveling through a lot of greenery and whole bunch of trees. It’s not like that here. So I tried to ask an AI where the locations were and couldn’t get an answer. I casually mentioned to rancher husband that I was rather outraged as a Montanan of thirty years that they didn’t get “where the plains meet the mountains” right. I was quite proud of my observation. That’s when he reminded me that Montanans are never outraged. They are bothered. And he added “Pilgrim” at the end to also remind me that I still had a bit of midwestern Puritan harumphing in me and that I had a ways to go to understand that Tao of Cow.

Where the Plains Meet the Mountain

Evie Taloney’s Thoughts on Nitpicking

Or How Evie Watches Movies and Series.

I try to just watch a movie or a TV show without some little nitpicker sitting on my shoulder. I love to lose myself in a show. I think a lot of people feel the way I do. That’s why a bunch of us still love a darkened movie theater and why those movie houses probably won’t go away.

So when I read that somebody saw somebody’s haIr extensions and they didn’t have that blonde hair dye back in the 1800’s or they don’t like the way somebody sounds “cuz my Momma is from those parts and she don’t sound like that”, I just let out a big sigh.

When in doubt turn to the Greeks:

The whole is something besides the parts“, said Aristotle a long time ago, in his wisdom way.

“The whole is greater than the part.” – Euclid said, in his mathy way.

https://se-scholar.com/se-blog/2017/6/23/who-said-the-whole-is-greater-than-the-sum-of-the-parts

That’s right. Most of the time the whole is a whole lot better than each individual little part. So savor the meal and stop picking nits. And, for good measure, kick that sucker off your shoulder and give him the boot.

And Clay feels the same.

Evie Taloney’s Series Worth ‘Ropin'”

Some thoughts on the series 1883 and The Gilded Age

Switching from 1883 on Sunday to The Gilded Age on Monday is a “Tale of Two Countries”! Taylor Sheridan’s new Paramount Plus series 1883 is about the Dutton family of his Yellowstone series. It’s how the Tennessee farmer James Dutton and his family got to Montana in the first place to build their empire. Julian Fellowes’s new HBO series The Gilded Age is about how the scrappy Russell family (with ties to Irish potato farmers) built their fortune in railroads and now are trying to elbow their way into New York City’s snooty old money society. The Texas to Montana series has a lot of grim but determined people in brown/grey homespun clothes bouncing around in rickety wooden wagons bumping along the vast prairies of the West while some taciturn ex Civil War veterans in boots and chaps mosey behind them pushing a herd of cattle. The New York City series has a bunch of prim but equally determined people in rustling silk dresses swishing into carriages in order to parade around a flower filled bustling Central Park while dandy men in jodhpur pants and derby hats trot along beside and nannies push babies instead of cows.

Both stories take place after the terrible U.S. Civil War in the years 1882 and 1883. America is a land of dreams for immigrants from Europe and some choose to work their way up the ladder in the big cities and some decide to literally hitch their wagons up and head to the untamed and open West to stake their claims to the land.  Those pioneers must contend with hostile Indians, nasty bandits, big ass storms and sneaky snakes. The New Yorkers must deal with hostile neighbors, nasty gossips, big ass bankers and sneaky snakes.

There’s lots more to be said about both stories, but for now Cowboy Clay and I would like to suggest that you watch both together. One is harrowing and seat of the pants type storytelling that can scare the crap out of you and can have you dissolving into tears in the next scene. It’s a bourbon and branch kind of night.

So, it’s a relief that the story the next night is a more relaxing trip in a smooth-riding carriage while our eyes feast on the sumptuous costumes and scrumptious lobster spread and our ears hear snarls from wicked tongues. It’s a sipping Champagne or a nice IPA kind of night.

Two stories.  Two countries.  Two Americas. The more we watch the more we see all the contradictions of this vast country; between stinginess and sharing, meanness and caring, cowardliness and daring, hell and heaven.  And then there is that freedom thing; the feeling of freedom when you take off that gun belt and strip down to your long johns or when you take that darn corset off and slip into your nightgown or better yet when you slip into some trousers and jump on your horse and take off at a gallop and feel that wind in your hair! Yeehaw, we say, and pass those fish-egg things.

“The Passing Art of Neighborliness” – Police Report from a Small Town July 2020

M-M-M-My Corona

Spring Calving

Daphne woke up with the coming light. She heard the train whistle but it was far away. Where was she? She wasn’t on the train or in New York. No, she was on the ranch in Montana and Clay was sound asleep.

She quietly slipped out of bed, threw on a shawl and tiptoed out of the bedroom. Like every morning, she made herself a latte and sat down to write her daily entry in her Corona Chronicles journal. But these were the Montana chapters.

Monday, July 14, 2020

4:30 am – robins start chirping and trilling as day begins to break.

4:35 am – curse birds and grope for earplugs

5:44 am – get up

5:45 – 9:30 am – read blogs, eat something and putter around

(7:50 – 8:50 am– Clay goes to town for coffee with friends.  Then comes back and does stuff outside or in the shop.)

Noon – Watch local news and weather, check cattle prices and eat lunch.

12:30 pm – 5pm – Take a walk and listen to Jimmy Dore on iPhone with earbuds, write a little, read a little, do some laundry, straighten up.

5pm – 6:30 pm – Cocktails at The Grand with Clay. (Favorite time of the day when we philosophize and reminisce.)

6:30 – 9 pm – Eat dinner and watch something on TV. (Patriot, Mythic Quest, Get Shorty, Little America, something with Nazis, other thing with Nazis, yet another thing with Nazis, back to any comedy, dark or light like Avenue 5, The Great….)

9 pm – Go to sleep to The Garth Channel on Sirius.

12:49 am – wake up after nightmare of people coughing on me and thinking I have a sore throat.

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Corona Chronicles: Ghost Train-Part 6

Part Six – “Essential Services

You will do foolish things, but do them with enthusiasm,” Colette

Heading South on Route 191 in Montana

Malta, Montana got its name from the spin of a globe and a finger that landed on the island of Malta in the Mediterranean, or so they say.  Daphne and Clay swung south out of town on to Route 191.  If they had kept going west on Route 2, they would continue on what is called the Hi-Line.  It pretty much follows the tracks of the Burlington Northern Santa Fe (BNSF) Railroad across northern Montana just south of the Canadian border.  Daphne thought it might be nice someday to drive the Hi-Line west of here to Glacier National Park; but not today.  This was not a road trip.  They weren’t sightseeing. This was a hauling-ass-back-to-the-ranch-to-outrun-the-virus kind of trip. 

Clay had filled up at the one gas station open in Malta so they could make it back with ease. But was she at ease? Was Clay? There were still a lot of unknowns.  Could she be carrying the virus and give it to Clay.  Highly unlikely, but she did come in contact with some people along the way.  But they all looked pretty healthy, weren’t old, didn’t cough or sneeze once, and didn’t shout or whisper both of which would have spewed flu. And Clay had been quarantined for three weeks on the ranch; just him and the cows and the cat.  He just went to the grocery store and didn’t see any strangers except for the gas station guy in Malta and the cashier at the Truck Stop where he got the sandwiches and water.  Nobody coughed or sneezed or even spoke a word.  No spew.  No flu.

Early that morning at Devils Lake, Daphne had definitely felt like she was in an episode of “The Twilight Zone”. “Imagine you are on a road somewhere between science and superstition; things and ideas; reality and fantasy. Unlock this door to another dimension with the key of imagination…Nee, nee, nee, nee;  nee, nee, nee, nee…”

But as they had pulled out of the rail station that afternoon, Daphne had thought about the last shot of “The Graduate“.   And now another movie crept into Daphne’s malleable mind.  Was she running away like Hoffman in “Marathon Man“?  “Is it safe?” said the evil Nazi character played by Larry Olivier. “Would it really be safe here in Montana from the virus?” she worried.  Montana, the fourth largest state in the Union with around a million people, had the fewest cases in the country and Phillips County, that they were leaving, had none and Sweet Grass County, where they were headed, had none. (For perspective, Sweet Grass County is about the size of Rhode Island and has about 3700 people and not one stoplight.) Yes, it was as safe a bet as one could make nowadays where every day felt like every other day and every night brought nightmares.  Where a cough filled her with anxiety.  Every sniffle brought fear.  “It’s all in your head,” Clay would say if he knew she was ricocheting between fear and the thrill of freedom.

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Corona Chronicles – Ghost Train Part 5 – Is it Safe?

Sleeper bed on Empire Builder
Night on The Empire Builder

Fro…to and fro…and… Daphne slowly opened her eyes.  She felt for her phone. It was 6:05 AM.  She turned over and opened the curtains.  The train had stopped at a station.  It was still night but she could make out some one story buildings and little houses in a row.  The houses were covered in ice and the ground with snow.  Siberia? No, the sign read “Devils Lake, ND” with no apostrophe.  Cold place for devils, she thought.  Bet they leave for the winter and head south.

She laid back down and decided to wait until sunrise to get up and at ‘em.  She had slept well and felt good.  She took a deep breath and the air smelled… fresh.  She remembered being sick the day before, but feeling better when she went to sleep. She remembered waking up around 10 PM and peering out at a city that must have been Minneapolis.  She had tried to stay awake long enough to say a silent “Hello” to all her relatives both alive and buried there.  Almost all her father’s family had lived, worked, and died in the Twin Cities. All except Aunt Hannah.  And many summers were spent at the lakes north of the city with these aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents.  It’s where she learned to fish and to water ski a bit.  She remembers the leeches that attached to her legs and her uncle burning them off with a cigarette lighter.  That was when everybody carried a cigarette lighter.   They ate a lot of hot dogs and hamburgers and peanut butter and jelly sandwiches.  They got lots of mosquito bites.

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